I once showed up at a party and all my friends were wearing my shirts except for me.

My friend pulled me aside and asked why I’m not wearing my own shirt.

I said I didn’t want to make it seem like it was all about me.

He said, “Sure, but I think it’s important to take pride in your work.”

That stuck with me.

Growing up, I never really brought attention to the things I’ve done.

I never invited anyone to my graduations. I never invited anyone to my high school band concerts. I never invited anyone to my track meets. I didn’t tell anyone of me winning any academic awards. Nothing. I just sort of did what I did and moved on.

I think it’s because I never really figured out how to talk about my achievements without sounding arrogant, so I just don’t say anything at all.

It’s all a fine balance, I know.

But perhaps I would benefit from challenging my beliefs and start thinking it’s okay to talk about what I’ve done, to stand up for myself, and most importantly, to take pride in my own work.

Thanks Paul.

by Jason Lam