I have allergies right now. I’m constantly sniffling and have trouble sleeping at night. I also haven’t gotten a haircut in weeks and should really go shopping and get myself some new clothes. I always try to be my best self, but today the stars aligned, I looked at myself in the mirror and couldn’t help but think, “Wow, you look like crap.” I’m not at my best right now, which brings me to this post today.

Why should you try to be your best self?

The thing is, I don’t care if I look like crap, because I know who I am on the inside. You may be thinking that to yourself as well. But being your best self is not just about one’s appearance. It applies to simple activities such as brushing your teeth every morning, remembering your friend’s birthday, or even something as grand as being patient when having an argument with your spouse.

I don’t mind walking out of my house in my pajamas, but I also know just because I don’t care, doesn’t mean others don’t. In addition, just because I don’t care, doesn’t mean it doesn’t still have an effect on other people. Taking all that into consideration, I aspire to be my best self not because I care about what others think of me, but because I understand my presence has an effect on those around me whether I like it or not, so I will strive to make it a positive one.

Be your best self as a mark of respect for those around you.

This is not to say you need to start changing who you are because of other people, but to do so out of courtesy, kindness, and respect. You’re not being fake. You’re taking care of yourself as an indirect way of letting people around you know that you give a damn. You care about others enough to care about yourself.

Because what happens when you don’t strive to be your best self?

To put it bluntly, you become a burden.

Consider the times when you drank too much. Failed to keep a promise. Showed up late to a meeting. Others end up having to pick up after you. You send a message saying you don’t care how your actions affect others.

Be your best self out of respect. Be your best self to inspire others to be their best selves as well.

Now excuse me while I hop into the shower, go get a haircut, and buy some new clothes to make sure I’m on my A game.

by Jason Lam